Proverbs 5:15-20
15 Drink water from your own cistern, flowing water from your own well. 16 Should your springs be scattered abroad, streams of water in the streets? 17 Let them be for yourself alone, and not for strangers with you. 18 Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, 19 a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love. 20 Why should you be intoxicated, my son, with a forbidden woman and embrace the bosom of an adulteress?
One of the main problems with pornography and sexual fantasies for married people is that they draw our attention away from our spouse. We become less satisfied with what we have, desiring something new and exciting instead. Do you "rejoice in the wife of your youth" (verse 18)? Are you "intoxicated" by your spouse (verse 19)? Or are you bored and wishing she was different in some way? If it is the latter, the real problem may be in your perspective. The more we focus our sexual energies on others, the less appealing our spouses will look to us; but conversely, if we focus on our spouse they will start to look more attractive to us. So will our spouse's "breasts fill you at all times with delight" (verse 19), or will it be the "bosom of an adulteress" (verse 20)?
Lord, help me to be captivated by my spouse.
15 Drink water from your own cistern, flowing water from your own well. 16 Should your springs be scattered abroad, streams of water in the streets? 17 Let them be for yourself alone, and not for strangers with you. 18 Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, 19 a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love. 20 Why should you be intoxicated, my son, with a forbidden woman and embrace the bosom of an adulteress?
One of the main problems with pornography and sexual fantasies for married people is that they draw our attention away from our spouse. We become less satisfied with what we have, desiring something new and exciting instead. Do you "rejoice in the wife of your youth" (verse 18)? Are you "intoxicated" by your spouse (verse 19)? Or are you bored and wishing she was different in some way? If it is the latter, the real problem may be in your perspective. The more we focus our sexual energies on others, the less appealing our spouses will look to us; but conversely, if we focus on our spouse they will start to look more attractive to us. So will our spouse's "breasts fill you at all times with delight" (verse 19), or will it be the "bosom of an adulteress" (verse 20)?
Lord, help me to be captivated by my spouse.